how to give a rim job
Ass eating, ass nibbling, ass licking, rimming… it’s even known as tossing the salad.
So what is this all about? Is it nice? is it safe? Let me address some of these questions and provide you with some sexy and effective tips in my brief “How to give a rim job” guide.
So, why a rim job? Well, this goes back to oral sex and anal sex, being a kind of a mix of the two. Both the mouth and the anus are erogenous zones. That means they have a high density of nerve endings, connected to your brain’s pleasure centers. Cultural inhibitions have always prevented many of us from exploring the nether regions of the anus… but I assure you, gentle stimulation of the anus can be extremely pleasurable, for both men and women. And what better to provide gentle stimulation with than a loving partner’s tongue?
Before you learn “How to give a rim job”, a more important lesson is “How to receive a rim job”. A lot of it lies with the receiving person, and I am talking mainly about cleanliness. Let’s face it, the anus is used for other bodily functions than just pleasuring, and unless the rimmer is into eliminations and “brown love”, residue of fecal matter will not be sexy… So, the first lesson in our “How to give a rim job” guide, is to make sure your partner is squeaky clean.
An enema isn’t necessary (although some people prefer to use one), but a good thourough wash, with soap and water around the anus is paramount. Soaping time can even be fun and sexy! Wash your partner and make sure you insert the tips of your fingers in and wash inside as well. And speaking of finger tips, whenever anal sex of any kind is on the horizong, make sure your nails are well trimmed!
Unless the receiver of the rim job is well practiced in rimming, you will find that she or he are likely to retract their asshole at your touch. It’s a totally natural response, and to allow them to enjoy rimming, you need to help them relax. So, now that we’re all clean, it’s time for some loving foreplay. Build up the mood. Show your partner that you love them, massage, kiss, hug and caress. Foreplay is always important, and more so when it comes to any anal play.
There are various positions for ass eating. Basically, any position that brings one person in close quarters with the other person’s ass works. For beginners, the easiest and most comfortable position is to have the recieving person on all fours, doggy style, legs spread apart and ass slightly lifted. The rimmer can then get behind, and using his or her hands, gently spread apart the ass cheeks.
So now, you are facing that nice clean puckered asshole. As always, lubrication is key. And with a rim job, your own mouth provides the lubrication. Make sure your tongue is thoroughly wet and begin by licking around the anus. Slowly at first, allowing your partner some time to relax and appreciate the sensations.
Take your time before approaching the opening, and once you do, don’t push your tongue right in. Most people react to anal touch by flexing their rectal muscles, so just hover around, lick and flutter your tongue over the anus. Given time and proper handling, you should be able to feel your partner’s anus relax some, and then you can insert your tongue inside. Be gentle and creative. Be attentive to your partner’s reactions and flow with them. Some people prefer more pressure, others like light flickering of the tongue. Learn your lover, to perfect your rimming style.
A note about safety before I go on with a few recommendations… No “How to give a rim job” will be complete without it. Rimming, if performed on a clean ass, is usually very low-risk. However, STD’s can be transferred in oral-anal contact, so take precautions. You don’t need to wrap a condom around your tongue, but you can use dental dams (thin sheets of latext for oral use). People who have a weaker immune system might do better to avoid rimming altogether, as even minute traces of fecal matter might be harmful for them. When in doubt, always consult your physician. We are not here to provide medical advice!
And now, for some more inspiration, I highly suggest you go watch some properly done rim jobs. Rimming is all over porn sites these days, and keeping in mind the advice provided in our “How to give a rim job” guide, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t borrow some ideas from them. If nothing else, you can check your own responses, and maybe your partner’s as well, to the concept of rimming. Or, you could just have fun!