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Giving head, a blowjob, cocksucking, fellatio or any other name you want to call it, pleasuring a man with your mouth can be a central part in your sexual repertoire. If you’ve never done it before, or if you’re looking for tips on how to do it better, I am proud to bring you my “Girl’s Guide to Giving Head”.

Why is it called the “Girl’s Guide to Giving Head”? Well, it’s written by a girl (ok, a woman in her thirties, if you want to get technical…) and is intended for those who want to be giving head, usually females, though in some cases guys who want to suck sock. So, if you want to be the Suckee only, feel free to move on to our other guides, and just leave this one open for your significant other… the only piece of advice I will dispense to the suckee, is keep it clean. Nuff said.

My first advice would be to get comfortable. Get to know not only the cock, but also the person behind it. This isn’t to say there’s no magic in giving head to a stranger (a common fantasy, fulfilled in totallity in glory holes); it’s just that giving head for the first time, you would probably be better off with a kind, loving and patient receiver.

After you know the man, get to know the cock. Take your time, looking and feeling it with your fingers. Get acquainted with its texture, size and shape. If you haven’t done that until now, you may want to do a session or two of using only your hands. Take it one step at a time.

As this is the “Girl’s Guide to Giving Head” and not the “Girl’s Guide to Giving a Handjob”, let’s move on to the actual business at hand (oops, sorry, I meant, at mouth). Now, I will be giving you some technical tips and ideas, but there are a couple of issues I wish to address first, both of which are imperative to giving good head.

Enjoy It.

As simple as it sounds, the biggest turn on for guys is to have you actually enjoy sucking his cock. What’s there to enjoy? well, giving oral sex can be pleasurable in many levels.

For one thing it’s a very intimate act, and if you get your heart and soul into it, try to maintain eye contact through out, talk before and after, and really see it as an act of love, you will enjoy it more yourself.

Moreover, at a more basic level, your own mouth is an erogenous zone. Your lips, your tongue, the inside of your mouth and even your throat are all rich in nerve endings, and stimulating them can be extremely erotic and pleasurable for you too. Some people are more oral than others, but if you enjoy kissing, you can probably learn to enjoy other types of oral stimulation.

Try it for yourself. Use your own fingers, or some smooth object to just play with your own mouth. Move the tip of your fingers over your lips, applying various degrees of pressure. Suck on your fingers, pushing them inside your mouth, pressing at different places. See how it makes you feel and learn to appreciate the sensations derived from sensual mouth play.

When you have a cock in front of you, think of it also as a tool for your own oral pleasuring. Use it, as you would use a sex toy, or your own fingers. In other words, learn to enjoy your part of the deal.

Go Wild

This is the second piece of advice I want to stress on this “Girl’s Guide to Giving Head”. Don’t hold back and don’t be shy. Guys love seeing a girl go agog over their cock. Go for it. Technique comes second. Kiss, lick, suck, play with the cock or balls, but do it all with a passion. Make them know how much you like it and enjoy it. Make sounds, moan and groan. I’m not talking about faking it. This goes back to the previous part of “learn to enjoy it”.

Now that we got these important preliminaries out of the way, let’s get technical on the “Girl’s Guide to Giving Head”. Here are some tricks, tips and ideas to turn you into a better cocksucker.

Positions - Basically, any position where his cock is comfortably within reach works. The classic, you on your knees, him standing up, works pretty well. Just make sure you have something soft under your knees. He may want a wall to lean against behind him too. Another common position is where your man is lying down in bed, either propped up to be able to watch you, or just lying back, with you between his legs. Variety is always good, so play around and find new positions that are good for you.

Cock Worship - make your man feel you adore his cock. Use your mouth for talking before you get it full. Tell him how much you admire his cock. It may sound funny, but men do appreciate it. Lick and suck with enthusiasm and make them feel their cock is your god.

Go play Balls - the testicles can be a focal point for your oral efforts, but to check this out with your own man. Some guys love having their balls fondled, licked and even sucked. Others prefer that you stay away from their precious balls. See what works for you and your man. But do check, as most appreciate some degree of ball play.

Build Up - there is no one formula for giving head, it can be slow or fast and advance in various ways. That said, teasing and slowly building up the act, is often more erotic than lunging for instant deepthroating. Start with kissing and licking, move on to sucking only the head of the penis, then take more in. Start slower and move up the pace. Make it varied and changable, gradually building up towards the more intense cock sucking.

Licking and tongue work - use your tonge. It’s warm and feels nice. Use it to lick the balls and cock, slowly at first, then faster. Apply varied amounts of pressure while licking. Flicking your tongue lightly at the beginning, then gradually applying more pressure. Don’t forget to use your tongue even when that cock is buried deep in your mouth. If you can, and that may not always be the case, move it sideways and just let it play around.

Suction - when you’re at that actual cock sucking stage, don’t forget to apply suction. Use your tongue under the cock, as well as your lips to create plenty of suction. Milk the cock with your mouth, and you’ll soon get your man milk coming…

Keep it wet - don’t be shy, wet is good. It’s ok to have some drooling. It doesn’t have to look tidy. Messy is just fine, and often preferable.

To Swallow or not to Swallow - this is a matter of personal choice of course. Some women (your truly included) enjoy the taste and feel of cum in their mouth. It does take some taking used to, but for me there is an incredible amount of closeness, intimacy and acceptance in letting my man orgasm in my mouth and swallowing his essence. Make what you will of that in the psychological, emotional level, I know most guys would be more than willing to share. What’s more, swallowing means everything stays clean all around.

Our “Girl’s Guide to Giving Head” will end with one most important recommendation. Well, two. The first is to practice, practice, practice. Take it in stages if you prefer, there’s no need to deep throat and swallow on the first time you ever try giving head. The second recommendation is as always, watch some movies. The fact that the average man is not as well endowed as most porn stars will only make for an easier blowjob, but you can still pick up ideas and techniques from porn that might improve your style and spice up your bedroom.

Above all - Have fun!